Hawzah News Agency - Question: Frankly, I say that I suffer from the complex of meanness. What is a practical treatment to save me from it and from its bad effects?
Answer:
First, you need to identify the root cause of the problem so that fixing it becomes much easier. Here are the main reasons why you might be feeling this complex:
- It’s a mindset issue: Either you are imagining these flaws yourself, or the people around you are gaslighting you into believing them.
- Unmet expectations: You have faced repeated setbacks and haven’t hit the goals you originally set for yourself.
To heal and move forward, we suggest the following steps:
- Build momentum: Try to achieve small wins in your life to boost your confidence. Once your morale is up, you can aim for another victory and take an even bigger step!
- Educate yourself: Read books related to self-improvement to help you unlock your potential and find success.
- Show your true self: Seize every opportunity to prove your character in an honest, ethical way. This doesn’t mean stepping on others to get ahead or showing off just for attention—be genuine.
- Positive affirmation: Convince yourself that you are a successful person capable of greatness with the help of Allah.
- Check your intentions: Don’t forget to keep your intentions sincere and purely for the sake of Allah when doing good deeds. This is the spiritual secret to everlasting success and personal growth.
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Source: "For a better future" by Hussain Ansariyan , Q14
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